Relationship Guide

 

Relationships are not what they used to be. There was a time when relationships would be valued and nurtured. When there was a problem, the couple would work to resolve it together; they would talk, discuss, compromise and come up with solutions

 

Candice

When I first met Michael my marriage was in serious trouble. My husband and I had completely disconnected from each other. There was alot of issues over the years that we just kept putting a bandaid over and with some issues we didn’t deal with them at all and just swept them under the carpet. There was alot of built up resentment and hurt from both sides.

Since starting the process with Michael we have both been able to come to the awareness in all areas of our marriage for each other’s needs and as such we have been able to, (what feels so naturally) communicate so much better and understand where one another are coming from and our marriage has become the strongest it has been in a very long time.

Michael is extremely approachable and made us feel at ease from our very first session right throughout the process. He is very attentive and genuinely cares. He invests everything he has into his sessions and is so adaptable as things come up during the sessions and the process.

I would recommend Michael to any couple that want to mend their relationship or require tools to sustain a healthy loving marriage .


5 months ago we started seeing Michael. Previously we had seen counsellors and psychologist for our marriage and these hadn't worked (or had worked for a very short amount if time). We were at the stage in our marriage where we were very close to separating. The sessions with Michael were confronting and hard work, however, hard work pays off. He asked us to take a closer look at ourselves as individuals and as a couple and be accountable for everything we say and do. After 3 months of coaching, we can now say that we are happily married and the future is very bright for us and our children. At the end of our last session, we both thanked Michael because he saved us. We would not be where we are today without Michael's guidance and coaching. We would've been a broken family.Was this hard? Yes. Was it confronting and uncomfortable at times? Yes. Was it worth it to save a marriage and family? Definitely yes.

These days, relationships, like many other things in modern life have become disposable. I believe however, that this is because we live in a society of instant gratification, one where if we don’t get immediate results; we jump off after the next shiny object and then seek instant results there instead. We do this in relationships; apps like tinder and plenty of fish provide many options for us all where commitment is not necessary.

However, many of us DO wish to commit and share our life journey with a trusted and loved partner. But even with the best of intentions, we may not feel like we have the staying power to create something sustainable and long lasting with a partner. We get into relationships unconsciously, stay in them unconsciously and then leave unconsciously too. It’s a pattern and cycle that is damaging both to us and the people we leave behind. 

This is where I come in. 

I help couples create AND re-create relationships that are conscious, fulfilling, enriching and sustainable.

I have developed a method where I work WITH the couple but also with the individuals within the relationship. 

You see, a relationship is comprised of two individuals, each with different subconscious programming which created different values and beliefs. It is sometimes challenging for these individuals to combine their differences into one life where thoughts, feelings and actions are reasonably compatible to the point where there isn’t intense conflict at every turn. 

Especially when we add into the mix a total blurring of gender roles and responsibilities within a heterosexual relationship, we find masculine and feminine energies between couples are totally unbalanced, which has a negative effect on attraction and desire within a relationships; as a result, I work with the individuals to create higher levels of self awareness within themselves, which translates into a healthy relationship with their partner, by balancing the masculine and feminine within ourselves, we learn how to relate to our partner in much more empowered ways creating more attraction and desire. 

As of January 2019, I have a 100% success rate. Every single couple I have worked with who has done the work individually and together have chosen to remain together. 

Whilst, I understand many couples do not reach out for help until things are at the so called “breaking point”; I encourage you to seek help before this point. There is something very connective about a couple who already enjoy a loving relationship and want to ensure it stays that way and even create one which is almost indestructible.

Remember, it takes just as much time and energy an costs just as much to re-create an existing relationship as it does to end one.

I look forward to working with you both.